This is a Man's World (Part 3 of a series on Transvestite Dating scheduled for Current Writings 2005)

3. The Paradox of Transvestism

The greatest barrier transvestites AND their admirers complain about is the tendency to play games, tell lies, and not come through. If you look at the logical paradox proposed by the Cretan prophet Epimenides in the 6th century BC: Should you believe a Crete when he says "All statements made by Cretans are false". If you were to believe what he says, then you can't possibly believe what he says.

Every transvestite suffers the same paradox with her suitor: Because the union is founded on a presupposed lie (A man pretending to be a woman), the tranny chaser feels he is at liberty to make up any story and every promise. He will defend, "After all, if the transvestite is pretending, isn't it just fair that I be allowed to pretend and lie as well?"

A woman gets the temporary upper hand and a man has to work for it? That sounds pretty much like the standard straightforward rules of engagement in mainstream culture to me. If you can't hang with these rules, I know a few guy friends who whould be more than happy to show you the way.

Every girl appreciates an admirer. No girl, not even a man in a girl's dress, appreciates another man who can't make good on his word. It is true that coquetry is a feminine artform that is enjoyed by women in the antiquated age that transvestites seem to want to return to. But such practices only blossom when they are dovetailed by the chivalry expected of men from their end of the agreement.